I would like to share some beautiful words that arrived in my mailbox today, written by my own Coach and Founder of Transformative Coach Institute, Joshua Elijah Benavides.
I hope they inspire you just as much as they inspired me:
‘In life, you can either learn through suffering and pain or through love and joy.
Suffering and pain come when you’re not paying attention to the wisdom of your Soul.
Ease, insight and flow come when you’re listening deeply and following the guidance within you.
This is the Way of Illumination.
It is the way of being open and receptive to Life’s insight and guidance.
There will be times when you feel lost.
It’s at these times that you may feel most compelled to try to escape your life through food, entertainment, sex, drugs and pretty much anything that may make the pain go away temporarily.
The problem with this approach is that you’re engaged in a self-perpetuating loop, one aimed at attempting to get rid of the feeling you’re experiencing.
This is simply another way of being in a state of not listening, not seeking to understand and not being available to what this feeling is trying to tell you about you, your life and your state of being.
Every state of being, every feeling, is your wisdom speaking to you.
Your wisdom is speaking to you 24/7.
The question is: Are you listening?
The Way of Illumination is the way of insight.
Insight comes when we’re receptive and welcoming of its presence.
Insight comes when we’re present with a clear, empty mind.
Insight cannot come when your mind is full and cluttered with thoughts of tomorrow and yesterday.
Insight is a gift of the Now.
And the Now is just another word for your Consciousness, that ever-present part of you that is simply aware.
When you are here, in this moment, as Consciousness, as yourself prior to thoughts, you are connected and available to receive the wisdom of the ages, the wisdom that will guide your life to its most beautiful expression.
When you are here, in this moment, as your thoughts, beliefs, opinions and judgements, you temporarily lose that sense of connection to your wisdom.
Instead, you see a world of thoughts that disguise themselves as your circumstances, conditions, other people etc.
The moment you slow down to Now, you will once again regain Vision and you will see that all your troubles and problems were only just thoughts you were believing to be true. Nothing more.
And from this space, you become open to new thoughts, new insights and new points of view.
There are an infinite number of points of views.
We live in an infinite universe.
There is no one way to see anything.
Don’t get lost in trying to find the right way or the right answers.
Instead, pay attention to how you feel.
When you’re aligned with your wisdom, you feel wonderful.
Being connected to your wisdom is being connected to your bliss. It feels warm, open, expansive in every direction. It feels deep, grounding and peaceful. It shows up as a knowing, an awe, a wonder.
This is always available to you.
The door is always open.
But it is up to you to walk through it.
The only exchange is your current point of view, your current thoughts, opinions, judgements and evaluations.
Would you exchange your certainty in these thoughts…for not knowing?
Would you be willing to empty your cup so that it may be filled with new possibilities, new answers, new solutions?
An empty mind is the Way of Illumination.
An empty mind is the welcome sign for insight.
An empty mind is no mind at all.
It is simply awareness, consciousness, beingness, presence.
You have a capacity for insight that will never run out.
Insight is your guide.
It has always been here, helping you to see what you currently cannot see.
Nurture this relationship.
Be grateful that you have this guidance always available and you will be blessed with even more clear, loving and wise guidance.
‘The real goal is not to escape the human experience; it is to embrace and transcend it.‘ (Michael Neill)
Welcome To The Human Condition
The word ’emotophobia’ is a word invented by bestselling author and Transformative Coach Michael Neill.
It is pronounced as
[ih-moh-tuh-foh-bee-uh] – noun
and translated as:
1. an abnormal or pathological fear of emotions, particularly those thought of as ‘negative’ or ‘non-productive’.
Interesting word! I think it is spot on for describing a phenomena that is very prevalent in our culture, fueling far more of our behavior than we can ever imagine. Without even knowing it, we are fearful of our own emotions and we do anything in the world to not have to feel them because they challenge us and they are uncomfortable and painful.
So instead, we avoid, we suppress, we distract ourselves (very easy with a smart phone being the extension of our hand) or we express, blame and shame and create drama.
We spend huge chunks of time and energy on finding and using tools and techniques that are supposed to help us with’solving’ our feelings, in order to change them to better ones or eliminating them altogether.
Which is kind of like trying to fix or change the weather or avoid red cars because we don’t like the way they make us feel.
But here’s the thing:
There is no such thing as a solution to a feeling!
What if it would be okay to feel good when we feel good and bad when we feel bad?
What if we would allow every single emotion that bubbles up to freely flow through us without having to push it back, control it or even express it.
What if we would recognise that emotions come and go and alter as our thoughts change.
What if we would be able to understand that we never feel the world ‘out there’, but always the world ‘in here’.
What if we would be able to see that we ALWAYS feel our present moment thinking. No exception.
What if we just could offer our own warm and loving Presence to every single feeling staring us in the face, notice and fully welcome it to the table before it moves on and before we let it go.
What if there would be no need at all to prefer one feeling over another, let alone attempt to fix it?
What if we were taught as children that our feelings aren’t informing us about the state of the world, they’re informing us about our state of mind.
‘If the only thing people learned was
not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world.’
Just imagine! The world would be a different place indeed.
It’s not that I don’t recognise the fact that we can change our emotional states through techniques and practice. There’s no question lifes are improved by controlling the mind (and therefore our feelings). Of course, we can set ourselves the goal to get more control over our emotional experience and move in the direction of 24/7 happiness – a life of only positive feelings without any anger, sadness, insecurity or fear. We can force ourselves to being capable of functioning at a much higher level when the ‘black dog of misery’ has us in its grip.
But, if feelings are no more (or less) than the shadows of the thoughts (conscious and subconscious) that pass through our mind from moment to moment, why would we? It is such hard work! It takes up so much of our energy to ‘fight’, manipulate and change our thoughts. I don’t think this is necessary.
Instead of discovering an even better and more effective way to manage our moods, we can discover and understand that our emotions and feelings are NOT reflecting our true nature – that they are in fact simply signposts that show us the way to a deep core of wellbeing. They let us know what needs to be felt, acknowledged, loved, forgiven, released and let go of in any given moment. They show us what needs to be cleaned and cleared from our Minds in order to get more aligned with our True Nature.
What if we would fully welcome accept and embrace the human condition?
“Be confused, it’s where you begin to learn new things.
Be broken, it’s where you begin to heal.
Be frustrated, it’s where you start to make more authentic decisions.
Be sad, because if we are brave enough we can hear our heart’s wisdom through it.
Be whatever you are right now.
No more hiding. You are worthy, always.’
To Feel Is To Heal
As a child, adolescent and young adult, I have always known this to be true intuitively. There’s is nothing wrong with the way we feel. Feeling ‘things’ is part of the entire spectrum, the rainbow if you will, of having the human experience.
Nature, as ever, has a clear purpose with feelings. Feelings are like a barometer that lets us know how aligned the content of our thinking is with who we truly are, our True Nature.
Our true nature is innate health and wellbeing. It is the vast space of pure Consciousness within us, The Void, from where ALL thoughts, as well as our wellbeing, inner wisdom and deeper feelings of love, peace and joy arise. It is ‘made of’ the same divine and intelligent energy as the vast space outside of ourselves, The Universe, The Source or God if you will.
However, this Void, this beautiful space of Consciousness within us, our Soul Space, is cluttered and contimanated with thoughts, memories and old programs and beliefs replaying in both our Conscious and Subconscious Mind.
If our thinking is ‘off’, we are in a low mood, or a low state of mind. We are inadvertently replaying subconscious memories, programs and beliefs. In our conscious mind we don’t even have a CLUE what’s going on half or most of the time. All we know is that we’re feeling low and out of sorts.
All we have to know is that this is OK and completely normal and natural! It is part of being human. We don’t have to do anything other than to hold this feeling in a space of love within and forgive ourselves for innocently holding on to those old programs replaying in our subconscious mind. Then we can choose to let go, or it lets go of us.
Our mood will shift naturally and effortlessly. No need to manipulate or change anything. There is no Positive Thinking needed to override these more negative feelings. The contrary! That would be bypassing and ignoring a signpost to true healing from within.
If there is any residue of the charge of this feeling left, don’t worry! Life will create another chance for it to arise to the surface so you can go through the process again. Welcome it, feel it, love it, forgive it, thank it, let go and let God!
We don’t have to know exactly WHAT is going on, we don’t have to analize. We can stay out of the story. The story we create around the feeling can actually take us away from the feeling. This is not what we want if we want to release, feel and heal.
Instead, we show up with totally loving and accepting Presence to our present moment feeling. That’s all we ‘need to do’.
I know it sounds easy right? It needs practice and tons of awareness. That’s why I’m such a big fan of the Mindfulness and Yoga practices in which we learn to be present to what is going on inside our Body, our Heart and our MInd.
If our thinking is aligned with that deeper dimension of who we truly are, we are in a high mood, or in a high state of mind. Naturally we feel lighter and we have deeper feelings of gratitude, love, peace and joy bubbling up.
In other words, our feelings are like a barometer telling us we are more or less aligned with our True Nature.
The Intelligence of Nature
and the Universal Mind
The deeper and innate intelligence of our being, makes sure that we project everything on another person and the world around us, that what we haven’t accepted about and within ourselves.
It is everyting that we (often subconsciously) judge in ourselves that goes ‘down under’ and lives a hidden life in the darker dungeons of our psyche. This is also called our Shadow.
That what we don’t accept about ourselves then will show up for sure in life around us. It will show up in our experience of other people’s behavior, in challenges and obstacles, losses, illnesses, minor and major disasters.
It will show up everywhere outside of ourselves untill we are ready to look within. No exceptions. This is the way life works.
Situations, other people, happenings and events are continuously holding up a mirror so that we start to see and feel what we have kept in the darker corners of our Mind.
Undigested or unprocessed feelings stored up there will come to the surface and show us the long and deeply held beliefs we have been holding in our own mind.
Innocently and most of the time subconsciously.
When this happens there are in essence two things we can do:
1. We push the feeling back behind locked doors in the dark dungeon and allow our Ego-self to project on someone else: we lash out, get angry, sad or dissapointed because of what other people do to us. We stay blind to every situation being a mirror showing us to what degree we are out of alignment with our true divine nature.
This is what most people do unfortunately and unknowingly. They get stuck and blame the world out there for the miserable situations they are in. We call this victim consciousness. Life is happening to me.
2. We get still and take time to get really present and pay attention. We allow ourselves to fully feel the raw energy of the feeling flowing through us, we welcome it to the table as a guest of honor and sit with it. We resist every urge to distract ourselves, to walk away or to express it. We infuse the feeling with our own warm Presence and the loving embrace of our Awareness. Then we petition Love or Divinity or God if you will, to correct our misperceptions or unhealthy beliefs related to the experienced problem. We ask this higher power to help us to forgive ourselves for innocently holding on to this misperception. We express our gratitude. Then we let go and we let God.
That’s it. No need to wrap the feeling up into a mind manufactured story and analasis. No need to dig into our childhood and relive certain events. In our conscious mind we have more often than not really NO CLUE why we feel a certain way and what thoughts exactly are causing us to feel this way.
All it needs is our Awareness and our Willingness to feel it, love it, fogive it, thank it and let go of it.
The Psychology Of Holes
Most of us unknowingly and innocently live in the ‘outside-in’ misunderstanding which is the understanding that the world ‘out there’ is causing us to feel a certain way:
‘What a miserable day, it is raining.’
‘He didn’t have the decency to return my call. He dissapoints me.’
‘She let me down. She made me feel sad and abandoned.’
‘They are ruining my life. I feel worthless.’
‘Her behaviour upsets me. She should change.’
Little stories we tell ourselves and others, often in the form of complaints.
Through habitual mental judgment and emotional contraction, we have a personalized, reactive relationship to people and events in our life. These are all forms of self-created suffering, but they are not recognized as such because to the ego they are satisfying. The ego enhances itself through reactivity and conflict.
During my coach training at TCI (Transformative Coach Instittute) I learnt about something called The Psychology of Holes. This psychology explains why we keep looking in the wrong direction (outwardly as opposed to inwardly). Those holes represent the undigested and unprocessed feelings, the unseen ‘children’ within our own being, aching to be seen, acknowlegded and loved. However, they are being kept prisoned in the dark, our shadow.
They are too ugly, too hard, too challenging to deal with and we feel deeply ashamed of them. If our friends and family see them our Ego will crumble, our mask will fall to pieces, our self constructed image of ourselves will be destroyed, our personality dies.
Our MInd or Ego-self or our false sense of self will do EVERYTHING in its power to avoid this and it has very clever and devious tricks to do this. It stays many a mile away from those holes.
Sometimes we hit the treshold of a feeling or experience but before we allow ourselves to surrender and take time to see what is on the other side of that treshold, we distract and numb ourselves with food, or people, or our own illusory thoughts and stories, or devices, sex, alcohol, drugs, shopping, Netflix, etc. etc.
This keeps us in the spell of past and future and away from the power and miracle of the Present Moment. We lose energy by doing this. It is like a vampire sucking our life-blood, robbing us from our life forces.
By turning away from those holes, we emotionally contract and cut ourselves off from the boundless energy of the Universe, of that what is far greater than our own personal Mind-self.
We start to feel tired, frustrated, exhausted, small and helpless. Therefore our Ego has to pump up itself even more.
The Power and Miracle of Now.
What we miss out on is that what is on the other side of this treshold. That what is on the other side of that challenging feeling or situation. When we allow ourselves to surrender and go through the treshold we encounter an Emptiness and most of us don’t want to feel that Emptiness. However, there is a deeper dimension to this empty feeling and it emanates Peace.
It emanates Peace, Love and Joy. It emanates that what we all so desperately long for. It emanates our True Nature.
By going within, we find it. By going through the treshold of painful feelings, we find Home. There is eternal Peace.
The Power and Miracle of the ‘Issness’ of Every Moment dissolves our ‘painbody’, right here, right now, because we give up on arguing with life and our resistance to our feelings and life’s events. We fully embrace and accept what ever arises in the present moment.
However, most of us keep looking outside of ourselves, and figuring how to fill our holes with our life stories, our posessions, our busy business and social life, our seeking ‘out there’, the newest gagdet, the latest techniques / tools and we are building on top of the holes that in essence are not even real. They innocently are self-created illusions.
This is where we get burn out. We get tired of all the searching outside of ourselves. We lose our mojo, our connection with Divinity, with our Inspiration and the natrual flow of life. We are in our own way to experience who we really are underneath the illusory realities we create.
We live our lives from our limited Minds as opposed to from Inspiration coming from that unlimited space of Consciousness.
True freedom and the end of suffering is living in such a way as if you had completely chosen whatever you feel or exprerience at this moment. This inner alignment with Now is the end of suffering.
Our unconscious mind patterns tend to come to an end simply by making them conscious, by becoming aware of them as they happen. They come to an end as soon as we stop labeling with good or bad feelings. They are just feelings.
We cannot be conscious and create suffering for ourselves. It is not possible.
Whatever our life situation is, how would we feel if we completely accepted it as it is – right Now?
Unhappiness or problems cannot survive in the Now.
Simply see what happens when we would allow every feeling to flow through us.
The Kindness and Intelligence Of the Design.
Luckily life is intelligent and loving and it wants the best for us. It wants us to be as aligned as possible to our true nature. Our true nature is our God nature, it is the vast space of Divine Energy, or call it what you like; Spirit, the Source, the Universe…it is all pointing to the same.
It is pointing to that what can’t be named because no word would be able to cover it’s Magnificence, it’s Light and it’s Love. This is ALWAYS present underneath, beyond and around our Mind-self, our ego or call it our false sense of self.
Life will reflect back to us clearly where we are out of alignment with Source, where we are caught up in our thinking mind and the subconscious memories and programs replaying over and over again. It will reflect this back in our experience of another person, a challenging situation, an obstacle in our way, a loss, an illness, physical limitations and ailments, name it, What we experience of the world out there is ALSO IN US and it needs attention. Love and attention.
This way life always lets us know what is ready to be cleaned from our Mind so the Void gets clear and Divine Inspiration can freely flow through and reach our conscious mind.
Finding Peace of Mind
Don’t deny or ignore the pain or the sadness that you feel. Accept that it is there. Beware of your mind’s tendency to construct a story around that pain in which you are assigned the role of victim. Fear, anger, resentment, or self-pity are the emotions that go with that role.
Then become aware of what lies behind those emotions as well as behind the mind-made story: that hole, that empty space. Can you face and accept that strange sense of emptiness? If you do, you may find that it is no longer a fearful place. You may be surprised to find Peace emanating from it. Only there and then we can feel Peace of Mind.
Life gives us the chance ‘to go there’, over and over again. The chance to recognise that we are caught up in our Mind-self. If we stay close and get really present to whatever it is from within that disturbs our inner peace, often in ‘reaction’ to what happens externally, we know it is time to feel and heal.
We know it is time get still and to welcome and love the feeling as a guest of honor to our table. We know it is time to forgive ourselves and to let go and let God. We are released and liberated when we patiently allow this process to take place. This is finding real freedom.
Alignment with our Innate and Profound Wellbeing
The more we do this clearing and cleaning within, the more we get aligned with our true nature, which is our innate health and wellbeing. The more aligned we are, the more inspired lives we lead. We can recognise this when we have feelings of love, joy and peace flowing through us effortlessly. We don’t have to do anything to deserve, earn or manufacture those feelings. In fact, this would be impossible.
Living this way is living in our authencity as opposed to living in our thought-created illusory reality.
All we need to do is to surrender to what arises in every given moment, feel it, love it, forgive it, thank it, release it and let go, let God. This ‘inside job’ is being done from moment to moment. All we need to do is stay present and pay attention.
There’s only two ways to live:
We can live from our thought-created Memories or we can live from Divine Inspiration.
It is up to us.
I would like to conclude with words from another one of my favorite spiritual teachers, Jeff Foster.
I think his words perfectly sum up what I’ve been trying to convey in this article.
‘It is the invisible force that keeps us running, restless, in pursuit of some intangible goal.
Caught up in some unnecessary activity.
Makes us escape into thinking.
Makes the body feel unsafe.
Makes the present moment into an enemy.
If we slow down. If we stop.
If we rest. If we simply do nothing.
Then we will have to face … ourselves.
We will have to face buried feelings.
All the sh*t we were running from.
All the darkness. The gunk. The muck.
The loneliness. The boredom. The emptiness.
Trauma says “run!”.
Trauma says “stillness is dangerous!”.
Trauma says “Do Not Rest!”.
We have to start by proving to ourselves that it is safe to rest! Safe to be still. Safe to do nothing, just for a moment. Safe to think our thoughts and feel our feelings …
… and not ‘fix’ the moment.
We can begin – one moment at a time – to digest all the undigested things inside. Stay with sadness for a moment longer. Be present with our joy. Breathe into our anxiety instead of running from it. Become curious about our discomfort instead of distracting ourselves with (unnecessary food, drink, cleaning, drugs, sex, shopping, Internet, thinking, talking, yoga, seeking, rumination, spiritual practice…)
We can begin to challenge the core story at the heart of trauma: That the present moment is unsafe. That the body is against us. That feelings are dangerous.
That stillness equals death and destruction.
That we have to ‘do’ something in order to be worthy, and loved, and safe, and whole.
It takes courage to stop running.
It takes courage to lean into the storm.
It takes courage to touch the darkness inside with the infinite light of our curious attention.
It takes courage to break the addiction to future.
And be here now.
And not know.’
– Jeff Foster
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According to Forbes.com, the personal coaching industry is a two BILLION dollar a year industry. There are currently (approximately) 53,000 coaches worldwide who are bringing in a sum total of 2.356 billion dollars!
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What began as an awakening
Early on in his career as a coach, Joshua experienced a profound spiritual awakening. This awakening into our True Nature also led him to the realization that coaching could be used as an authentic, non-religious and powerful tool for the healing, transformation and awakening of consciousness. Over the next few years, Joshua integrated ancient spiritual teachings with modern psychology, and received on-going insights during his meditations, to develop a unique way to coach “from” this broader perspective. What came through was totally unprecedented. Clients reconnected with their own inner guidance, rediscovered their Innate Well-Being, activated dormant potentials, released life-long fears and traumas, and discovered themselves to be more than they ever imagined.
Became a calling
These transformative experiences urged Joshua to see if there were any coaching institutes that focused on coaching as a path for the realization and actualization of our True Nature. As he had suspected, there were very few. And out of those few, most had religious agendas or new age theories that didn’t align with Universal Truth – that which is true for all human beings, regardless of background, culture, denominations or beliefs
This led to a series of visionary experiences that culminated in Joshua heeding the call to create an institute of higher learning that would integrate universal spiritual wisdom teachings and practices with modern inside-out psychology and proven coaching methods.
Which struck a chord
In 2017, Joshua invited a small group of people to participate in this unique training.
And something magical happened. The students, which consisted of university teachers, yoga instructors, functional nutritionist, success coaches and sports coaches, all experienced an irreversible inner transformation and awakening that opened them up to a whole new understanding of the nature of reality and the human experience. Many reported that what they learned was the “missing link” that allowed them to take their coaching and lives to a higher level of fulfillment, joy, ease and impact.
Seeing these reports and the impact this training was having on students, Joshua, as well as students, felt that this is a coach training who’s time has come. In January of 2018, the Transformative Coach Institute was born. Although there are other trainings that certify coaches in “transformative coaching”, the Transformative Coach Institute was created to re-define what transformative coaching is as a method that integrates both spiritual and psychological processes for inner awakening, healing and unleashing human potential.
To raise human consciousness and well-being through individual awakening and transformation.
TCI envisions, works towards and embodies a world where human beings have awakened to the love and wisdom of their True Nature. They envision, work towards and embody a world where human beings have relinquished victim consciousness and are free to blossom into their full creative potential.
They do this through their unique, online coach training which:
1. Provides students with the principles and practices to transform their consciousness, their lives and their world from the inside-out
2. Develops students into ground-breaking leaders who are skilled in the art and science of transformative coaching; who can effectively guide others to blossom into their ultimate purpose and potential in life, thereby, making a ripple effect that uplifts all of humanity.
This training is specifically designed for those who want to work professionally as a Transformative Coach. I believe TCI created something truly innovative, grounded and transformative. Their grads report that the training was the “missing link” that activated their coaching abilities and practice. Hear what they have to say.
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“I had been certified as a Transformative Coach before Joshua’s training, and the difference now is like night and day, regarding the level of service that I provide my clients and my own level of grounding. Six months after finishing my certification, not only am I working with only ideal clients, my business is financially sustainable and profitable, and I’m not overworking myself. The way Joshua guides students to set up their programs and choose rates is brilliant and truly a breath of fresh air. I am no longer wrestling with myself over what to charge, and I have clients who gladly pay my fees. Nowadays, my clients feel deeply seen, heard, served and transformed through our work together, so there is no question about the value of the work we do, which is truly priceless. This experience has been deeply transformative for me in all aspects of my life!”
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“This program has had an impact on everything, not only my coaching, but my life! The newfound awareness and insights have allowed me to fully show up for my own life and grow in ways I could never have imagined. This in turn has made an impact in my Coaching practice, allowing me and my clients to go deeper with our sessions in an effortless way and allowing for new insights and inner wisdom to emerge. This is not “another coaching toolbox” – it is a way of Being. It is an awareness that, when seen and acknowledged, radically transforms one’s life from the inside out! I’m truly grateful! It has made such an amazing difference in my personal and professional development!”
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“This training is phenomenal! I greatly appreciate any knowledge that raises my level of consciousness and that I can use to help others do the same. The “Inside-Out” understanding and coaching method separates this program from traditional coaching and is truly amazing. I HIGHLY recommend anyone take the same journey I have with Joshua. Life for me is much more enjoyable because of the depth I have gone to with this course.”
Women’s Transformative Coach
“For me, this training has been transformational from the inside out. I literally woke up one day, and realized that nothing is written in stone and that I could create another reality. It has made me a better professional, a better communicator, teacher and, for the first time, a true coach. I feel more prepared to guide people in the best way possible to help them achieve true transformation and keep on with my own transformation as well. I definitely recommend it more than any other course I have ever taken!”
FACILITATES authentic, reflective, healing and life-changing conversations that awakens others to their True Nature and the Inside-Out nature of reality.
ASSISTS others in letting go of any unresolved thought-patterns, judgements and beliefs that limit, restrict and obscure their freedom, love, clarity and wisdom.
RECOGNIZES the infinite, creative power within and supports others to reconnect with that power to heal, transform and elevate every aspect of their lives.
GUIDES and supports others to be all they can be and blossom into their ultimate purpose and potential in life.
What makes a Transformative Coach unique?
Our entire experience of life is being created, moment-by-moment, from the inside-out, not the outside-in. This simple, yet profound, understanding allows Transformative Coaches to bring out the best in people and raise their over-all level of clarity, freedom, consciousness and well-being.
Why become a Transformative Coach with TCI?
You’ll positively transform your consciousness and your life while receiving comprehensive coaching skills and business development training. Our Transformative Coach Training Program provides you with life-changing principles, practice and tools to make a living assisting others in transformation.
Why is now the best time to become a Transformative Coach?
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I consider myself very blessed. I may have some worries occasionally about the usual things in life like health, money, my family, the state of our crazy world etc, but getting deeply caught in a feeling of anxiety or having a panic attack is kind of alien to me. I can only imagine how awful that must feel and my heart goes out to everyone going through this.
Depression, yes, I can relate to that very well. I suffered from depression on and off over the last 10 years so I know the feeling well. Not anymore I can happily say! Ever since I started seeing and understanding the true nature of the human experience, EVERYTHING shifted for me, without me having to do anything in particular, other then seeing and understanding this.
Yes, I have my low days (who doens’t) but understanding where my low mood and low state of mind is coming from makes it so much easier to sail through those days in a more light hearted way.
My daugher is another story.
Feelings of anxiety started when she was 7, on a family holiday in Tenerife. I first became aware of what was going on when she was standing in her suitcase changing into her swimming costume.
I asked her why she was standing in her suitcase. She looked round, clearly feeling nervous. ‘There might be something on the floor that might harm me,’ she responded. This was the spick and span floor of our hotel room she was referring to!
During that holiday she kept obsessively checking and asking whether we were sure her food and drinks were not poisoned. Later that summer when camping, she refused doing the dishes because the dishwasher liquid might contain something ‘damaging’, if not ‘deadly’!
I remember my husband and myself being very puzzled! Where did this extreme and irrational fear suddenly come from? I was intrigued and also slightly worried as you can imagine.
Fight Flight Response
At home, I started doing some research and learned about the fight-flight response (also called the stress response) and about the part of the brain called the amygdala and how it functions as an alarm system for when there is life threatening danger, so the body knows when to prepare for fight or flight.
I learned about how all sorts of trivial events and situations can cause a false alarm in our brain. We perceive the situation as dangerous and life threatening but in reality it’s not.
Being threatened with detention for not doing homework can cause the same stress response as having a face to face encounter with a sabre-toothed tiger. A crashed computer is very annoying and unsettling but it is certainly not life-threatening. However, the physical response to both events can be exactly the same.
Our daughter’s amygdala was definitely working overtime, that much was for sure. Her body was in fight-flight mode, more often than not.
I had to find ways to help her calm down her nervous system, adrenal glands and amygdala. Because in the meanwhile I had started teaching yoga and mindfulness to children, I decided to try out different techniques and exercises.
This needed to be fixed and as soon as possible!
So I embarked on a journey of trying all sorts of techniques and methods, using tools from my yoga and mindfulness experience like relaxation, yoga nidra, mantra singing, massage, acupuncture etc. We also made major dietary changes and you name it, and they all were helpful and useful to a certain extend in some way or the other.
However, all those wonderful techniques, exercises, and methods didn’t get to the root of the root.
Apart from that, most of it was a LOT OF WORK, some of them cost a lot of money and it took a lot of energy!
I remember a time where helping her to settle for sleep at night would take up 2 hours.
In the meanwhile, her anxiety kept coming back in full swing when we were not ‘busy’ relaxing, massaging, singing and finding the most healthy recipes for her.
At times it felt like I was having a full time job ‘fixing’ this.
It was clear we had to step of this spinning caroussel of trying to manage and get rid of her anxiety,
Before I reveal to you what helped us eventually to understand what was going on, let us first have a closer look at what anxiety is and where does it come from?
What Is Anxiety?
So… what is anxiety? The dictionary definition of anxiety is: “An extremely strong feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome”
Almost every one of us experiences moments of anxiety – that’s not a problem in itself, it’s just being human.
The problem is that we misunderstand where our anxiety comes from.
Most of us believe that our anxiety symptoms come from outside events such as:
The situation we’re in
The people we’re with
In other words, the world out there.
And then we become double anxious because we are concerned that at any moment something can happen to trigger an anxiety attack. So in essence, we become anxious about our anxiety!
It is this horrible feeling of never knowing when the world is going to make us feel bad. It is feeling like life was akin to walking in a field of landmines, waiting for one to blow up in our face any moment.
Many understably and innocently believe the label of being an anxious person – someone who is, whether by nature or nurture, predisposed to anxiety – but this turns out to be a not so accurate assumption.
Fundamentally, anxiety is simply a misunderstanding of why we feel anxiety – and then feeling anxious about the prospect of more anxiety.
I’ll explain further.
The Outside-In Misunderstanding
Have you ever felt like someone made you angry? I think we all know this feeling. When someone does or says something we don’t like, we naturally think they made us feel upset. Have you ever felt like someone made you feel safe or loved? I hope you do. When people we love do something kind, considerate, or loving for us, we tend to feel love, and attribute that feeling as coming from them. That seems natural, doesn’t it?
“You make me so angry (or sad! etc.)!”
“She makes me very happy, so I want to be around her.”
“That crazy driver is to blame. I’m feeling road rage because that man was driving like an idiot!”
The reality is, though, that no one can make us feel any emotion. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” She was completely right, but it goes even further than that.
No one can make you feel anything without your consent!
I know it sounds crazy, because that’s not how we’re used to looking at the world. We like to think of life as happening to us, and our reactions and emotions as just a natural by-product of whatever comes along.
But what if we could get back in the driver’s seat of our own emotional well-being, stop being a victim to whatever emotions seem to come our way, stop allowing others to “push our buttons” and make us upset, angry, sad, annoyed, and also admired, appreciated and loved.
There’s two flavours of the outside in misunderstanding:
Flavour 1: It often seems like our feelings of worry, stress, boredom or emotional discomfort are coming from somewhere other than Thought in the moment. It seems like our feelings are coming from our workload, our boss, next week’s meeting, last week’s argument, the weather, our bank balance, our childhood, the list is endless.
Flavour 2: It often seems like our feelings of happiness, joy, relief, peace and excitement are coming from somewhere other than Thought in the moment. It seems like our feelings are coming from good company, a wonderful movie, a drink, a drug, a cigarette, gambling, sex, food, habitual behaviours, etc. But again, that’s not how it works.
We are always living in the feeling of Thought in the moment, even when it seems like our feelings are coming from somewhere else.
In other words:
There is no connection, at all, between how you feel and external circumstances, events, people, etc. You’re only feeling your thoughts ABOUT these circumstances, events, people, etc.
Your feelings aren’t informing you about the state of the world, they’re informing you about your state of mind.
In this light we can also start to understand where anxious or depressed feelings come from.
But what to do? Change our negative, destructive and fearful thoughts and replace them for more positive ones? No. This is not the answer. Although it may seem useful till a certain extend, at the end of the day this is just another manipulative trick of the mind.
Apart from that, it takes tons of energy to push negative thinking aside and mind manufacture a more positive thoughts.
Even though we understand that our feeling comes from our present moment thinking, this does not mean that we have to get rid of or replace negative thinking. Negative thinking is extremely natural. All we need to understand is that the true nature of thought is transient and illusory.
We cannot and don’t have to control what thoughts pop into or pass through our minds. All we have to know is that this thinking will pass. We don’t have to ‘purchase’ or unpack the content of our thoughts, we can let them pass through so new, fresh thinking will come through naturally and eventually, without us having to force anything.
We can relax and allow every single experience to flow through us.
All we have ‘to do’ is become really present and curious to these thought-feeling experiences. It is the power of our own presence and this friendly curiosity that helps us practice Self Inquiry.
It is a turning of attention and curiosity inwards towards ourselves and towards the truth of our nature. What thoughts and feelings are appearing to this presence and awareness inside of us?
Everything, all experiences are already welcome and accepted here before we welcome and accept them by choice.
I repeat one of my favorite quotes by Sydney Banks:
‘If the only thing people learned was
not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world.’
Self-inquiry is allowing a natural healing to take place. It is an allowing of the ever so wise and in-built intelligence in our psyche and body to do it’s work without us interfering. Without us interfering with all of our fixing and analizing and our strong tendency to wanting to get rid of or improve to what ever it is we are experiencing.
This is true healing. It is the way of resting in that what is and finding courage to hold everything in love.
‘Stop trying to heal yourself, fix yourself, even awaken yourself. Stop trying to fast-forward the movie of your life.
Let go of “letting go”. Healing is not a destination. Be Here
Your pain, your sorrow, your doubts, your longings, your fearful thoughts: they are not mistakes, and they aren’t asking to be “healed”.
They are asking to be held. Here, now, lightly, in the loving, healing arms of present awareness’.
Psychologist and three principles practitioner, Dr. Dicken Bettinger, who suffered form anxiety himself, talks about us not needing to work hard to look for freedom from anxiety once we start seeing and sensing who we truly are and what we innately have going for us underneath all the mental noise going on in our minds.
Innate health and well-being and Peace of MInd is our true nature. It is always there, it is what shows up every single moment in our lives, minus our thoughts.
He describes the following steps on our way to being free from anxiety and/or depression :
Step 1. Recognise that 100% of your experience of anxiety and fear is created by thought.
We are not our thoughts, we are the Awareness that is witnessing the thoughts.
All of our feelings are being created by our thoughts in the moment.
This is in direct contrast to what we’re taught – e.g. that stressors cause stress. It’s also contrary to how things look – if you’re in a room and feeling good but someone walks in the room and you feel anxious, it’s a very convincing illusion that your anxiety is being caused by the other person.
When we see that our experience of anxiety is coming from thought, it’s the beginning of us letting go of the misunderstanding of what anxiety is and what’s creating the anxiousness within us.
Step. 2 Seeing that a new thought will free us from the anxiety created by the current thought.
When we wake up to the transient and illusory nature of thought, we’re open to a new thought flowing through – and thereby creating a completely different feeling.
This is the opposite to what we tend to do – which is to focus MORE on the anxious thought that has created the anxious feeling. We try to identify it, fix it and change it – all the more we continue to think about – and therefore feel – more anxiety.
When we wake up to what’s really happening we focus more on our wellbeing than our anxious thoughts.
Step. 3 Understanding that we all have potential for infinite wisdom and wellbeing.
We’re not limited to the boundaries of our physical brains, we all have a connection to infinite potential – more love, more connection, more clarity, more creativity, more peace – when we look toward the non-conceptual, formless space that’s before our personal thinking.
This space is the deepest essence of ourselves that we can sense. It is our soul.
When we wake up from the illusion from our personal thoughts, we wake up from everything we have been thinking. We step back from our personal thinking and, as it quiets down, we become present. We enter into the now, into pure Consciousness – free of the distortions, the limitations, and the contamination of our personal thinking.
In that state, we rest in a space that is before all of our concepts of time, This is why it is often called the eternal now. The now is not in time. Time is a concept, and when our mind is free of concepts, we find ourself in the timeless now. We are not holding onto any concepts of past, present, or future.
When we are free of concepts of time, we are beyond our ideas of wanting or desiring something in the future. A mind free of wanting and desiring is a mind at peace.
Words such as quiet, silence, or stillness are used to describe this space before the noise, the busyness, the chatter, the worry, the panic attack, the feeling of depression and the babble of our personal thinking.
When we touch this infinite space our mind is at rest. It is peaceful and calm. There is true contentment.
When we rest in this space of pure Consciousness, we may still have thought content passing through our mind but these thoughts are not paid attention to or listened to. It may feel like we are the sky and our thoughts are birds flying through.
Our inner sky is untouched by these birds. Also the birds of worry.
We start to see life directly, unfiltered by the distortions of our personal beliefs. We see life as it is, rather than as it isn’t.
It is a space within and beyond the personal, yet it is something that we already have and are. It is our true self. Some call it the impersonal self.
The more we touch this infinite, wide-open space, the more we realize the fact of tis ever-present nature. It becomes more and more real to us. It becomes more and more familiar. It is a space where we can experience directly our true nature. It is the space where we feel most at home.
Thoughts of worry can be received and held with ease within this space. It like a mother picking up her child after a fall and gently rocking it in her arms.
The Intelligence Behind The System
To better understand how our experience of life can change for the better without us having to do the changing, imagine waking up from a nightmare. One moment you’re totally engrossed in managing to drive a car with the brakes not working, the other your eyes are open and the experience is gone. You may still have a little bit of adrenaline coursing through your veins, but there are no lasting after-effects. No healing is necessary. You just get up and get on with your day.
In the same way no healing is required after an unpleasant or insecure thought – you just wake up to the fact of your thinking and before long a new thought comes along and you have a new experience. Waking up from negative, destructive or fearful thinking this way is like waking up from a daymare.
While the new thought isn’t necessarily better than the old one, when we just allow thoughts to pass through us, the intelligence behind the system seems to move in the direction of deeper thoughts and greater mental health.
This pre-existing intelligence shows up in neaerly every area of life. Take the human body for example. It’s designed to heal itself. If I graze my leg, I don’t need to get overly involved in the process of clotting the blood, creating the scab, or growing the new skin. That’s the intelligence behind the physical system at work. While we think of fevers and diarrhea and vomiting as bad things, they’re the body’s way of eliminating toxins in a hurry. It’s all built into the design.
The same thing is true of the mind. It’s designed to clear itself out all the time and to return to quiet and clarity. It’s like a self-cleaning cat litter tray – the cat poops, the tray senses the extra weight, and the arm comes up and clears the poop away.
The moment we understand this, we’re off the hook. Because the system is designed to take care of our mental hygiene, we don’t have to. It’s sometimes hard to trust the self regulating nature of the system to clean out our old crappy thinking and replace it with new thought, but the intelligence behind the system is always at play. And it works the same for everyone.
We feel our thinking, and it shapes our perceptions and creates our experience of life. This is true regardless of where we’re from or how worthy we think we are. New and fresh thought coming into our mind is just a natural part of how the system works. When we trust the process and allow it to do its job, our life becomes simpler and our experience becomes richer.
The Kindness Of The Design
The main question to ask ourselves is whether we believe the Universe is friendly or not. A lovely illustration of the idea that the Universe has our best interests at heart, is the short story I read in Michael Neill’s The Inside Out Revolution. It is about someone who was training for his pilot’s license.
During his first solo flight, he lost control of his Piper Cub ‘trainer plane’ high above the ground. The more he tried to bring the plane back under his control, the more wildly it span. His conversation with the tower went something like this:
Pilot: Mayday! Mayday! I’ve lost control of the plane – please advise!
Tower: Take your hands and feet off the controls. I repeat, take your hands and feet off the controls!
Pilot: Negative, tower – repeat, I have lost control of the plane! I’m trying everything I can to bring it back under control, but I just can’t do it! This is a matter of life and death – please, just tell me what to do!
Tower: This is a matter of life and death – take your hands and feet off the controls! Do it now!
What the young pilot didn’t know (and the air traffic controller clearly did) was that trainer planes have a self correcting mechanism built into them. When the pilot lets go of the controls, the plane levels itself out. Once the plane is back on an even keel, the pilot can take over again and steer the plane back to safety.
So how does this apply to us?
The principle of Mind seems to work through us in the direction of health and well-being. It’s a sort of spiritual immune system that will bring a return to peace the moment we step out of the way.
Would we even think of trying to heal our own cut finger? No, of course not. Same for our wounded psyche, we needn’t try so hard.
The reason so few of us get to experience that power working in our life is that we’re so busy trying to fix everything for ourselves. And ironically, like the pilot overworking the controls of a plane designed to correct itself, our constant affirmations and interventions often get in the way of our mind’s return to clarity and health.
We try so hard to remember to live by the wisdom and insights of others that we forget the source of that wisdom is inside us as well. Insights are the natural side-effects of living with a relatively quiet mind and a relatively beautiful feeling. Forget the words, stay with the feeling, and the insights will continue to unfold.
Feeling worried and anxious is the most natural thing in the world. If we leave it alone and know our experience is entirely created by thought, the mind starts to correct it self, naturally. If we don’t, our thought created worry may evolve into anxiety or a panick attack.
When we fully receive and witness the anxious feeling with purely our own Presence, we can allow it to be held by our own loving and all embracing awareness and gain our bearings and quiet mind naturally.
In my own daughter’s words: ‘Mum, knowing that my worry feelings are coming from my own thinking makes feeling scared less scary!’
Because of my daughter simply understanding that her feeling scared is not caused by something outside of herself (even though it may seem very real to her that the tiny spider in her room is freaking her out!), she is able to relax a little more.
And as she relaxes, anxious thinking then has the chance to settle and the mind naturally returns to a calmer state. Now there is space for new, fresh and more healthy thinking to come in, with a different feeling as a result.
Not long after I got engaged in the transformative conversation about the three principles I witnessed a huge shift taking place within my own life to start with. As a natural result of this something within my daughter shifted also, without me having to apply all the before mentioned teachniques and exercises. They were just a bonus, the cream to the cake.
She has a totally different relationship to her less and less frequently ocurring anxious moments.
As a natural result of this the relationship between me and my daughter also transformed into one that feels more free and relaxed.
A deeper understanding and awareness of the power and nature of thought changes everything.
The World Needs You!
I feel very blessed that my path crossed with spiritual teacher and transformative coach & consultant Joshua Benavides. He is the founder and director of Transformative Coach Institute. I signed up for my Profound Wellbeing Coach Training at the Transformative Coaching Institute with Joshua Benavides only 4 months ago.
I felt a calling from deep within to grow and ground deeper into my understanding of the 3 fundamental and universal principles: an understanding that is transforming my life from the inside out, an understanding that has freed me from depression, an understanding that is helping me to experience a deeper level of freedom, clarity and peace of mind and an understanding that is enabling me to help and coach other people.
And guess what! After only 3 months in, I’ve started coaching other people as part of my training and I am LOVING every minute of it. Next week I have my first paying client. A lovely mother who is seeking help for her son suffering from negative and painful thinking as she describes it.
Can you imagine? This mother gaining this same profound understanding of the transient and illusory nature of thought will have a huge impact on how she will respond to her son being negative. It is a no-brainer. And YES, it is that simple! Simple yet profound and life changing.
I am thrilled and so excited to see my calling is turning into reality. And I know this is possible for you too, if you feel called!
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Waking Up To The Inside-Out Understanding Is The Way Out
Waking up to the inside-out understanding is the way out of suffering from anxiety and depression. I have seen it in my own life. I have seen it in my daughter’s life and I have seen in it in so many other people’s lives.
However, we have to back up a little further and realise that everything that is being done today in the mental health field is a reflection of the prevailing model or paradigm. This model consists of a set of mostly unspoken assumptions and beliefs about psychological and emotional health & illness.
There are certain things that we have collectively come to believe about mental health, and all of our treatments and interventions are based upon – and limited by – these so-called truths.
For example, it is widely assumed in the psychiatric field that:
Mental and illness is largely a biological problem caused by an excess or deficiency of certain chemicals.
Some people are born mentally healthy and others are genetically predisposed to develop a mental illness
There are certain psychological conditions that are permanent, and the best a person can hope for is to learn how to cope with and manage their symptoms
In the wider field of psychology and psychotherapy, it is generally assumed that:
There are external ‘stress factors’ in people’s lives that make them feel bad
Childhood trauma and past events are the main cause of psychological suffering
Healing takes a long time and a lot of ‘processing’ of a person’s issues
People need to practice techniques and relive their past in order to feel better
The most widely-recommended treatments such as pharmaceutical drugs and cognitive behavioural therapy make perfect sense based on the above assumptions about ‘what is wrong’ with people who are suffering psychologically and emotionally.
But what if those assumptions are fundamentally untrue? If we were to think differently about mental health, we would automatically treat people differently, and it is quite conceivable that we would experience very different outcomes as a result.
What Sydney Banks introduced to the world in the mid 1970’s was a radical new perspective on mental health that is only now beginning to be more widely recognized.
Just take a moment to reflect on what Syd Banks realised through his own direct experience:
Every single person has innate mental health that can never be lost (although it can be temporarily obscured)
Only a person’s own thoughts in the moment can create their feelings
The past can only affect a person to the degree that it continues to feature in their own thinking
We are only ever one thought away from happiness, or sadness, or any other experience
People can recover their mental and emotional well-being quickly and easily via insightful understanding of the simple principles behind their psychological functioning
Imagine for a moment what a mental health service may look like if it was based on these kinds of assumptions. What might be possible if we were to start out from here? I can tell you from my own experience that we would have every reason to be hopeful and optimistic.
And we would see results on a daily basis that would be considered miraculous or ‘unbelievable’ from the ‘old paradigm’ viewpoint.
When we begin with a presumption that there is something wrong with a person, that they are somehow ‘broken’ or lacking something essential, we are embarking on an endless path of ‘trying to fix and make things better’ for them.
When we can see that people are inherently mentally healthy right behind their psychological and emotional suffering, we start out from a different place.
We can offer them real hope and have total faith in their capacity to come home to their own innate wisdom and wellbeing.
And experience Peace of Mind.
If you have any questions or would like to share something or if you need a hand in any way, please do leave a comment below.
Love & Blessings,
Founder of Soul Space and Young Yogis® Academy| Creator of Yogadance® Kids Method | (Kids) Yoga Instructor | Biodanza/Vitaldanza Facilitator | Waldorf Primary School Teacher | Teacher Trainer | Well-being Educator | Transformative Coach (in training) | Cat and Ice cream lover | Dutch | Traveling House sitter| Wife and Mother
“All we are is peace, love, and wisdom, and the power to create the illusion that we are not.” – Jack Pransky
Would you like to experience clarity, peace and freedom, even in the midst of challenging circumstances?
Understanding the three principles by Sydney Banks allows us to tap into the deeper intelligence behind life, access our natural wisdom and guidance, and unleash our limitless creative power.
Understanding the three principles helps us to live with less stress, greater ease and a sense of connection to the larger unfolding of life, which makes us feel more happy naturally and automatically as a result.
The Three Principles are the basic building blocks of life, and it is through these three components that all psychological mysteries are unfolded.
The Three Principle were revealed and first introduced by the late Sydney Banks in the 1970s, as a way of understanding human nature and the human experience. He was a Scottish welder, living in Salt Springs in Canada who went on to become a well-known and respected philosopher and author after he had an experience of spiritual enlightenment.
After this profound experience he had an insight into the true nature of human beings and the process of how we experience life. His experience revealed a deeper truth about how life works and about who we are in essence.
When Syd Banks began talking about his insights into the human experience, he articulated their essence in the form of three universal principles, which he called:
1 Universal Mind 2 Consciousness 3 Thought
While those words mean different things to different people, the principles they point to have been observed and studied in science, philosophy, and religion throughout the ages. We can see them as the basic facts of life – formless, foundational elements which can be observed only through their effects:
1 The Principle of Universal Mind
This first principle (although they don’t have a particular order) is the source and intelligence behind all life. This intelligent energy is ever present but is not ‘in control’ – it has no inherent morality or apparent point of view.
It is the natural force that makes sure our nails and hair grow, that an acorn grows into an oak tree, that our cuts and bruises heal, and that life begets life.
This energy is the source of our thinking, of creation and of every single living thing. It is the very essence of existence. It’s where our thought and consciousness stem from.
Universal Mind may be called God in religion, the Great Spirit in the world of a shaman, The Source in spiritual circles, Divine Intelligence, the Quantum Field, the Ground of Being, it doesn’t matter. It refers to that which is larger than ourselves.
It goes beyond religion, science and anything we can imagine. Universal Mind powers everything, our thinking, our body processes, the moon, stars and sun etc.
It is the innate intelligence of our entire world, our universe and ourselves and it is the greatest yet most underused and undervalued asset we have.
Universal Mind is constant and ever present. In contrary to our personal ‘little mind’, which is constantly changing and busy. Universal Mind ensures that life continues, it’s the force that makes sure there’s a sun rise and sun set every single day.
It’s the Universal Mind that has the power to guide us through our life. It is the space of infinite possibility and pure potential, beyond time, space, matter and all limitations.
Universal Mind is the source of love and wisdom and it is the very essence of who we are.
As we manage to slow down the busy chatter of our personal mind, we start to feel connected with a deeper knowing and the deeper feelings of love that come from Universal Mind.
The famous line ‘May the force be with you’ from Star Wars can be understood in this light.
This can be hard to grasp with the existing limits of our personal thinking, also called the ego thinking or our little mind.
And words will never suffice to describe it. This is the mystery. We can use our finger to point at the moon. The finger represents our limited words to describe something so profound and true. If we keep looking at only finger we will never see the moon.
Deeper feelings about who we really are coming from this vast space. Feelings of Love, Peace, Wisdom, Joy, Kindness, Health, Well-being. This is innately present in all of us. Always. it can never leave us. It is our True Nature.
2 The Principle of Consciousness
This is our capacity to be aware and experience our existence, life itself.
Other words for consciousness are awareness, being ness, the silent witness or soul.
It is that which allows us to be aware of life and it is that which everything appears to. Our experiences are like the images of a movie appearing on the film screen. The film screen is our consciousness, it brings the images to life and it is always the same as where the images of the movie keep changing.
It is our consciousness, our awareness that brings our thinking to life. Without the gift of consciousness we wouldn’t be able to be aware and make sense of our thinking. It functions like an interpreter of all the experiences we are having.
If it wasn’t for consciousness, the endless stream of thoughts that pass through our minds day in day out, would just pass by unnoticed, like a train passing by a station without any people getting on board.
We can be in high states of consciousness or a high state of mind or call it a high mood. In this state we naturally have positive thoughts passing through the mind. We feel good!
We also can be in a low state of consciousness or a low state of mind or call it a low mood. In this state we naturally have negative thoughts passing through the mind. We feel not so good.
The only real thing here is our consciousness, not our thoughts! Our thoughts are just thoughts. Consciousness brings our thinking to live and we feel real feelings as a result. However, thoughts are just thoughts, and not a reality in itself.
Consciousness is the impersonal, changeless, still, silent space within. It is the space where all thoughts arise and subside, come and go.
3 The Principle of Thought
Thought is our ability to think. It is not WHAT we think, but THAT we think, which again, is impersonal.
Thought is the formless creative energy out of which we construct the full range of the human experience: mental images, concepts, meanings, ideas, perceptions, duality, problems, solutions, beliefs, opinions, judgments, language, etc.
Thanks to our thoughts we can feel. What does that mean? It means that every single feeling or emotion we experience comes via a thought we had. We think something, which in turn makes us feel something. Thought and feeling are two sides of the same coin. Thought always comes first, no exception.
And this is where it becomes mind blowing because this means that our experience of life always comes from within, from our own thinking. Always. no exception.
Take a moment to truly take this in.
Understanding this puts our world upside down because have we not learned that something happens out there in the world and we believe we feel something in response. And now it turns out to be the other way around. Rather than experiencing something from the outside in, we experience from the inside out. The direction of this process is key!
A Brief History Lesson
William James (1842-1910) was the founder of American Psychology. In 1890, in ‘The Principles of Psychology’, he expressed the need for foundational, causal principles/laws in psychology that represented true human nature.
He knew they existed, but hadn’t discovered them yet. He predicted that:
“Such knowledge, realised on a large scale, would be an achievement compared with which the control of the rest of physical nature would be relatively insignificant.”
Sydney Banks did uncover those fundamental principles thanks to his profound experience of enlightenment.
Modern spiritual teachers who are still alive and revealing the exact same principles in their teachings are Eckhart Tolle, Mooij, Jeff Foster. With their profound teachings they all point us to the same:
The Three Principles, The Psychological Trinity
Together, the Principles of Universal Mind, Consciousness and Thought are the formless, fundamental forces that are creating our present moment experience, from moment to moment.
Recognising this, via insight, reveals that we’re always living in the feeling of our ‘right now’ thinking.
ALL experience is THOUGHT coming into form in the moment, brought to life by CONSCIOUSNESS, and all made possible by UNIVERSAL MIND.
I’m alive (Universal Mind) + I’m aware (Consciousness) + I think (Thought) = Reality. Take away one to those 3 principles and the entire fabric of life falls apart.
I will finish with the beautiful quote I started with:
“All we are is peace, love, and wisdom, and the power to create the illusion that we are not.” – Jack Pransky
In other words, it is the Power of Thought that can create the illusion that we are something other than peace, love and wisdom.
This revulotionary insight can be the beginning of transformation of our lives:
“To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the Stillness underneath the mental noise, the Love and Joy underneath the pain, is Freedom, Salvation, Enlightenment” – Eckhart Tolle
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Love & Blessings,
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